I couldn’t believe it when the doctor told me I was pregnant! I was so mad at myself because I felt like I disobeyed God’s will for my life and now I was paying the price. By my second trimester, I still hadn’t told my family. When I went to church, I tried to dress in a way that would hide my baby bump.
One night, my sister called me and asked me if I was okay. She could tell I had been crying. I tried to deny that anything was wrong but I couldn’t hold it in, I finally blurted out that I was pregnant. My sister reassured me that it was okay – a reaction that I didn’t expect. Only God would have allowed that to happen. It’s like she somehow knew. Even still, I wasn’t sure if I was going to keep my baby or not for the fear of being alone as a single mother, raising this child on my own. I have always imagined myself being married and having children and it just came out to be the opposite way. My fear was being a single mother and being scrutinized for not being married by my church folks.
Later, I told a friend about my situation and she told me about the Pregnancy Care Centre. The next day, I went there to speak to someone. I’ve never cried so hard in my life! I was completely honest with them and they were supportive and understanding. They suggested that I participate in the Life Boat program which helped me plan for becoming a parent. This Life Boat program changed my perspective of thinking of how I would parent my child regarding finances, character, personality, family history. It gave me an in-depth perspective of how I would make a good mother. My fears of being a single mother in the church finally started to dissipate.
Dawn’s story shows what is impactful in the lives of fearful Christian single mothers: compassion and education. It wasn’t until Dawn was guided in her next steps in her pregnancy journey through the Life Boat program, that her fears started to dissipate. Let’s make a point of caring for women like Dawn into our churches, so they don’t have to fear!